My theory on car driving

First of all, I am no relationship expert. My understanding is all about my perception, my immediate reaction and toned down / mellowed down reaction that may or may not be different to my initial reaction.

Any relationship needs constant nurturing. Constant giving and taking. And regular role reversals. While mistrust is a known killer, a sign of desperation gets seen as controlling, overbearing, insecure and also lacking in trust. I do not wish to mark myself against the scale on these factors. It is upto others to mark me, if they wanted to.

Moreover, the complexity can not alone be compounded by the presence of ___ and also by ___, but also by other geospatial aspects. Obviously, quite a few things are not possible regularly, agreed. Giving and taking then simply takes a back seat. And which kicks in a chain reaction causing more desperation. Again, the enhanced desperation only leads to enhanced perceptions of above negatives.

Trust is something that is always built over time. It has been built. Voluntarily, and sometimes forcibly too. Likewise, complexity of issues can tinge something to appear as a different shade. As insecurity, desperation etc.,.

I equally understand that nobody is an expert in these topics, situations and also in day-day developments. A better approach would be to understand each other better, step into their shoes too and ask direct questions as what would help make it better. Most times demands may be impossible. Sometimes it may. But asking itself is the first step towards understanding. Making a concerted effort towards flexing a little bit towards taking a valuable relationship ahead or even sustaining it.

Much of these complex dimensions may not matter or even figure when some of the influencing factors are taken out. But what is important is reaching out. Reaching out to understand.

Contrary to common philosophy "When the going gets tough, the tough get going", my guess is that "In relationships, when the going gets tough, it needs even more fuel to keep it going".

Its like driving a car with the engine constantly misfiring (and only burning fewer cylinders) and at the same time with a hole in the gas tank. And that's when you dont want to give a kick at the gas tank. Atleast a car could be parked for a while - relationship cannot.

So when I am down, low and out, please don't kick me in the butt for my rash driving. Please. Please. Yes, once more, please.

Save your kicks for my rash driving for a happy day. After all, if I have done wrong, I need to be kicked too. I also hope this is not a sign for weakness, insecurity or desperation. As I said, I don't want to kick the gas tank. Rather, I am merely getting down from the car to keep it running by giving a push from behind. Even if the engine isnt running.

All I need is for the car to run, albeit slowly atleast.